all the hustle and bustle of planning your wedding,
the ceremony itself is frequently forgotten or taken
for granted. Remember this is the commitment that you
and your love are making to each other. It should
capture the essence of your love and commitment and
say how you feel about your relationship.
Here three candles are used - one representing the
bride and one representing the groom. These lit
candles are used to light a third candle that
represents the union of these two beings into one
light. This is not recommended for an outdoor wedding
as the candles may blow out.
COVENANT OF SAND
This is similar to the Unity candle but using three
containers. Two will contain sand representing the
bride and groom. This sand will then be poured into
the third signifying the joining of two into one. This
is beautiful on the beach.
Here, each member of the congregation and wedding
party are given a shell to hold during the ceremony.
The minister will at some point bring everyone to the
edge of the water where the shells will be thrown into
the ocean representing the ripples crossing and
This is a blessing of the bride and groom’s hands and
their role in the past, present and future of the
relationship. It can also include the possibility of
an expected baby or existing children. It is a very
beautiful ceremony and I have never seen a dry eye
after this is performed.
BLESSING OF UNBORN CHILD
Where appropriate, this blessing welcomes the unborn
child into the new family unit that is being
this ceremony, the bridal couple each holds a long
stem rose. At some point, the minister asks them to
exchange roses as the first gift as husband and wife.
It talks about setting up a special place within the
home where a rose can be placed to deliver a message
when words fail.
JUMPING THE BROOM
Some traditions use this ceremony to signify the leap
of faith that the bridal couple is taking in
committing to a future together.
BREAKING THE GLASS
some religious traditions, a glass is crushed asking
that the years of happiness be no less than the
fragments of the glass.
This acknowledges the parents with love and gratitude
for raising the couple and setting an example.
that you are thoroughly confused, remember that your
vows can be very traditional or words of love written
and recited by each of you. I always insist that the
bridal couple give me a copy of their original
creations just in case they are too nervous to recite
– I can then very easily slide into “repeat after me”
and no one will know the difference. There are many,
many ways to say what you want to say to each other
and make it special. I can give you many examples.
POETRY, READINGS AND MUSIC
is always nice to have the personal touch of a friend
or family member adding something to your ceremony.
There are many Biblical readings or poems that can be
added into the text or read by someone you love and
want to honor. If you add a special song, remember
that something heard in the relaxed atmosphere of your
home or car seems to be ten times longer when you are
standing in front of a lot of people with nothing to
do. You might want to consider having special music as
you walk down the aisle.
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